Getting the Most Out of Your BDSM Play

 

Whether you're just a fringer of the BDSM lifestyle or if it is ingrained in your very being and that your partner/lover, there are many options. There are many new experiences and devices that can elicit amazing and diverse responses to enhance these experiences. You have the chance to experience elation, and even tears, but not of pain or anguish. Sex should "never" cause real harm. We invite you to join us as we explore the winding roads that lead down into the sweet, intoxicating combination of passion and pain.

 

Blindfolds and Sensation play Blindfolds are a must-have addition to any D/s activity. This tool is a marvelous one. BDSM Devices combination of sensory deprivation and sensory overload in other areas, combined with the absolute trust required to wear it makes it a powerful tool. You can imagine the shade falling over your eyes and turning your vision black. You might be able to move, but more likely you won't. As you hear every sound, your hearing becomes sharper. You will never know what your lover does until you do it. You feel your skin tingle in anticipation. The first time you touch your flesh with an ice cube or hot wax, a knife, a pen, a cloth pin, or any other object that your imagination can conjure up, you immediately take a deep breath. Once you lose your sight, the only focus is on tactile sensations.

 

Earplugs

These can be used in conjunction with blindfolds. There are many options for sensory deprivation. You can buy cheap memory foam earplugs at most drug or grocery stores. There are also similar industrial versions. Some sex shops even sell hoods. These hoods, which are usually made of leather but can be made in other materials, provide both visual and audio deprivation. The experience will be enhanced and prolonged by cutting off all ties to sight.

 

Restraints

There are many options for immobilizing your partner. These range from silk scarves and saran wraps to wrist/ankle/industrial strength bungee cords. A lot of ankle/wrist cuffs have metal D rings that you can attach to your binder. The purpose of restraint, ultimately, is to control. You can direct your partner's sensations which will in turn result in more enjoyment for you both. It can be great fun to tie your partner up as a Christmas present, whether you are looking for orgasm control or just a lack of being able touch yourself or others. Safety is crucial for this type of fun. It is important to not cut off blood circulation. In the case of saran wrap, your body's ability to breathe and heat release can be affected. You will find the opposite when you take it off, so keep a blanket or robe handy.

 

These are just a few of the physical options available. You can also explore other options to increase the joy and pleasure both of you may experience. You have many options. These include conditioning, which is telling your partner to do or wear a certain thing in public, and dirty talking, as well as roleplay. There are endless possibilities, provided you keep it safe and let your partner know that you love them and will be there for him or her after the temporary pains and welts of need have passed.